Harold and I have been friends for over 50 years, now, and it’s that kind of friendship that goes on whether we see each other regularly or not. We can go several years without speaking with each other, then one of us will pick up the phone and it is like no time has passed. I’m sure everyone has at least one friend like that.
Harold and his wife Monica own a furniture store in Hyannis, MA (his big story is that he sold furniture to Teddy Kennedy). As young teens I spent half my Cape Cod summers over at Harold’s house where his parents treated me like another son. It was a great time.
Last year, however, Harold called me telling me he had cancer and was given about 18 months to live… meanwhile he was undergoing chemo and had lost weight (close to 100 lbs… and Harold started out as a chunky like me.)
Sunday, Harold called me to say he was 11 months into the chemo and was in partial remission. They were stopping the chemo because it was no longer working, but he was feeling pretty good. He’s pretty sure he’ll make it past the eighteen month point… I sure hope he does… and we had our regular phone call and discussion about families, basketball, the move Elly and I are making into “farming” (why does everyone say “Green Acres” to me when I talk about it?).
I don’t know what the situation will be the next time we talk, but I sure hope Harold continues to move ahead.
I learned, in a long phonecall with him, that my oldest and best friend, Harold, is dying from a combination of bladder and spinal cancers. Harold and I are the kind of friends who can go a decade without contacting each other, then pick up where we left off as if nothing had gone by.
Harold and I met at prep school on our first day in 1960 and have been friends ever since. He spent his life living on Cape Cod and working in Hyannis, while I traveled all over the place pursuing theatre, then non-profit, then photography then computer careers. For a few years we were both living on the Cape and, for some time, we could get together for lunch almost every day. You know the kind of friend.
Now Harold is undergoing chemo and other medications and, like me, is retired and looking back on his life. We had a great talk about our kids and grandkids, our parents both living and dead, our wives and sisters and all the things we have done for the last 51 years.
I won’t sleep well tonight, however. There are things I can’t get out of my mind.
- Cape Cod Media Group Launches iPad Photo App (prweb.com)
- Off-Season Bargains on Cape Cod (chathamvacationhomes.com)
We drove down to Frederick to meet Bud and his fiancee, Rachel, who came up from DC, for Mother’s Day lunch at the Cafe Nola.
I hadn’t eaten here before, but Elly has been here several times as her AIGA meeting takes place around the corner twice a month. The Nola has plenty of vegetarian and light selections (I had a great French toast) and their coffee was particularly good.
After brunch we walked over to Frederick’s Community Bridge Mural, the great trompe l’oile painted bridge that looks amazingly like three dimensional stones, statues, gates and crests. Bud and Rachel were surprised when they got up close and found everything was relly flat and just painted on.
8:00PM to 08:45PM
Hosted by Rod Snyder
Event Description:The Jefferson County Young Democrats, Shepherd University Young Democrats and Jefferson County NAACP will hold a candlelight vigil to honor the life and work of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and to emphasize the ongoing struggle for civil rights and worker rights.
One of 1000 Demonstrations Nationwide. Be There!
I’ve just put a Dunleavy for County Commissioner sign out on my front lawn, which means I guess I’m committing myself to an Independent, something I haven’t done in a couple of elections. I am in agreement with just about all of his stands… especially keeping the PATH line out of Jefferson County, supporting and expanding the National Parks (Harper’s Ferry, Civil War Trails, etc.), Modification of the Zoning Ordinance, etc.
I listened to John Case’s hour and a half interview with Ed Dunleavy yesterday, after having heard Paul Taylor, the Democrat, a while ago, and having heard Delegate John Doyle’s comments on the Independent two weeks ago, also on John’s show (is anyone else covering local politics at this depth around here?). I was very impressed with Ed’s comments and the fact that he didn’t avoid directly talking to the issues… not something you always get around here. His financial accountancy background stands out with his concern with “the books” on the County Commission’s work (not something you hear from other candidates or current Commissioners whose function, after all, is to spend our money.)
The Republican will be on John’s show next week, but he would have to go a long way to get me interested in him. Next Thursday (October 14) at 7PM all the candidates will debate at War Memorial Building—Shepherdstown Men’s Club. This should be a place to make a final decision. If you are from Jefferson County, go there and ask the questions which will define their potential as Commissioners.